Meeting Offline in the Real World for the First Time

Now you have gone through all the advise and ready to make contact. This is not something hard as ‘Close encounters of third kind’ but something close. All the preparation is useless if we are not initiating contact. This is what we trained ourselves for all this time.

Before we make contact you must keep something in your mind. Most sites offer simples methods of contacting such as ‘winks’, video messages, audio messages, or instant messaging. Our advise is to keep away from these. Most women see winks as sign of you being a man who doesn’t have enough guts to contact her through an email. And also the chances are great that she might not even notice a wink.

Also don’t try video messaging or audio messages as these cannot be carefully composed like emails and are awkward. It is possible that she might not own a PC. May be she checks her mail at her office or at an Internet cafe. She might need Headsets other paraphernalia if this is the case. Also she might not be in a suitable environment to listen to your message. Also avoid instant messages like plague. What most guys do is send instant messages as soon as they see, she is online. This irritates women most of the time. She might be going through mail or doing something else to find an instant message popping out of nowhere from some weird geek. Most of the time women will turn off instant messages if they can figure out how!

We have to show her that we are nice, confident and easy going guys. And we have to pique her interest to a point which will tempt her to respond. Trust me when I say that this is the hardest part. The best way is to send an email exploring all the above avenues. But remember when we hit send, there is no looking back. So make sure you are sending the proper response which will lead to the real payoff: a face-to-face meeting.